Sunday, December 30, 2007


......long silence......
I know what all of you are thinking, and if it's what I think your thinking, you haven't been dealing with "the system" long enough or you've been watching too much Life Time over the holidays.
YOU think on Christmas eve a SW knocked on our door and said, "OH, D, I've waited all day for the supervisor to finish your case review and sign it and I just could NOT leave until I brought you the final adoption papers. I know you've waited 18 needless months for this, and I wasn't going to go home until this boy had PARENTS FOR CHRISTMAS! Here, here it is. Sign these papers and your adoption is all done!
HAHAHAHA,HEHEHEHE, you poor naive people. NO!!!!! (As we all know, or will know soon enough all "social agencies" are closed working 4 days before & 4 days after all major holidays. Closed 2 working days before & 2 days after for all minor holidays (like boxing day in Canada & sushi day in Japan) Do not make the mistake of thinking anything happens between November 1st & Feb. 1st.
Anyway, I digress, back to my miracle.
Our Christmas miracle every year .... so far. Is getting the Christmas decoration back up the match stick size drop down stairs to the attic. Where Barbie & Ken would break a rung if not careful. Pushing 100 lb plastic containers BACK up those "stairs" with out the help of gravity we had letting them tumble helter skelter down said stairs 3 weeks before.
We call it a miracle.
When the afore mentioned happens with a SW. We will call it, "God coming down and having a little heart to heart talk with a SW and her agreeing something needs to be done".

Wednesday, December 26, 2007


ROLAND MARTIN IS OFFICIALLY MY HERO for the next 6 next months. AND he's on CNN no less. Can you believe it? Some one had the guts to stand up and SAY something....on TV...ON CNN.
(CNN) -- This whole push to remove Christ from the Christmas season has gotten so ridiculous that it's pathetic.
Because of all the politically correct idiots, we are being encouraged to stop saying "Merry Christmas" for the more palatable "Happy Holidays." What the heck are "Seasons Greetings"? Can someone tell me what season we are greeting folks about? A Christmas tree? Oh, no! It's now a holiday tree. Any Christmas song that even remotely mentions Christ or has a religious undertone is being axed for being overtly religious. And I'm sorry, forget X-M-A-S. Malcolm X? Yes. X replacing Christ? No.
Don't get me wrong; I'm very respectful of other religions. I don't want anyone to be afraid of discussing the Jewish faith when we address Hanukkah. And we shouldn't dismiss Muslims when the annual pilgrimage to Mecca is held during December. In fact, Americans are so ignorant of other faiths that we can all learn from one another.
But this seeming backlash against Christianity is bordering on the absurd, and we should continue to remember that Jesus is the reason for the season.
I know that may sound strident, but it's true. We spend an inordinate amount of time focused on shopping and buying gifts, but really, what does any of this have to do with the birth of Jesus? We have families all over the nation killing themselves to buy a tree they can't afford, running up their credit to buy toys and other gifts, all in an effort to make someone else happy.
What if families decided to forgo gifts, and instead, used their shopping days giving back to those in need? What if more of us went into our closets, grabbed old toys and clothes, repackaged them, and provided them as gifts to those without? Instead of gorging on food, what if we used some of the dough to feed those who are in need? What if we blew off those gift cards to electronic retailers and signed up with, and gave someone a gift card to their favorite charity?
Sure, I know I sound like a reincarnation of a flower child, but really, do we have to be so crass during the Christmas season?

Its time that we return to traditional values, and end this ridiculous charade. It's important that we take a fuller account of WHY we celebrate Christmas, as opposed to falling for the barrage of ads that tell us what is most important.
Parents, don't be so consumed with the notion that your children will have a terrible Christmas because the tree isn't overflowing with gifts. The true love that you show them is more important than anything else.
America might be the king of capitalism, but secularism must never become so prevalent that our religious traditions are discarded.
Roland S. Martin is a nationally award-winning journalist and CNN contributor. Martin is studying to receive his master's degree in Christian communications at Louisiana Baptist University, and he is the author of "Listening to the Spirit Within: 50 Perspectives on Faith." You can read more of his columns at

Tuesday, December 18, 2007

SOMETHING THINK ABOUT,..other than non-adoption!

This is from our hospital chaplain, who sends emails to those employees who would like words of encouragement during the Christmas season. This one gave me just a little heart tug and/or slap in the face. Thank you God for your beautiful Grace & much needed mercy!
Maybe you'll get as much out of it as I did.

Matthew 24:29 Immediately after the suffering of those days the sun will be darkened, and the
moon will not give its light; the stars will fall from heaven, and the powers of heaven will be shaken.

Night-mare. n 1. Formerly, an evil spirit believed to haunt and suffocate sleeping people. 2. A frightening dream, often accompanied by a sensation of oppression and helplessness.
Grace. n ….. 5. Mercy, clemency

It was just a thought, I think, it may have been a nightmare. What if God, at the time God decided to bring about the conception of Christ, chose not to do so because of earlier experiences with humankind. Here goes God's thought process as I remember them from my dream.
“Early on in creation humankind became so vile that I decided to wipe out everything, yet I found one person that was righteous so I restored humankind through the family of Noah. By golly, humankind turns right around and messes up again. When everything is going good they start moving away from my promises and my love. When humankind gets in trouble they come back in order for me to help them out of the pickle they got themselves into. When the Israelites were in Egypt their yoke was too heavy to bear so I send Moses to get them out and give them a new start. You think they will ever learn? I had this great idea about bringing a savior but looking at their past history I don't think they will understand, or change. It may be better for humankind to waddle in their own dung. It will save a lot of grief, confusion and disagreement. Mary will not become pregnant in a mysterious way, Joseph does not have to make a choice, the Three Wise-persons, Magi, from the East can stay home, the Shepherd boys will not be scared and confused, Judas will not have to betray his teacher, Peter does not have to deny his teacher three times, and my son will not have to suffer on the cross. I think I will not send my son to earth.” A nightmare, AAAAGH!!!!!
And so, in my nightmare, Jesus was not born and forgiveness was not available. During the nightmare I did not suffocate but I did wake up in a sweat. In those early morning hours I realized, and celebrated, the fact that Jesus was born and is born each and every day. God did not turn away from us but continues coming towards us. God has given us grace every time we asked for it. Grace was born into this world to die for the sins of humankind. That is clemency, having leniency for the other person. And as we celebrate the birth of Christ this year, remember that God’s gift was, and is, a gift of grace.

Unto us a child is born, let us reflect on that one for a bit.

Grace be with you.

Wednesday, December 12, 2007

We Wait, and We wait

Did I mention we've been waiting 6 months? For what you may ask? TPR has been done 6 months now.
If you find out please let me know. "Cause they ain't telling us.
This is ridiculas!

Tuesday, December 04, 2007

Everybody has an opinion on who was there. This is a 2 yr olds...

It stirs up theological debates, makes good Christians & friends argue

But this is who the Boy says was there that night.
Baby Jesus is on top of the manger. Even the alligator is a maybe. I'm just not so sure about that pig. I don't think it's kosher.

Sunday, December 02, 2007


Why after realizing that there was a forgotten 18 year in our house, that fingerprints were need, didn't they realize at the same time that said 18 year old would also need a drug screen? don't these people do this for a living? Do they not do these things (adoptions) all the time? Now that the fingerprints are back.(yeah, yeah) NOW, they forgot she also needs drug screened. They didn't know that before? This is really becoming crazy. This boy has TPR done for 6 MONTHS NOW. There is NO reason why this wasn't done 4 months ago. They keep coming up with all these,"oh, just one more thing." they should add to drive you crazy with.
I just don't get this "system". You would think that they would want these kids out of the system and "off the payroll, so to speak ASAP. It's not like we're a new placement for him. He's lived with us since day one of being taken out of the home. 18 months to be precise. 6 months of that TPR has been done. I just do not get it.
Can anyone shed any light on this? We've been foster parents for going on 4 years. There is NOTHING that they don't know about us or have documented.
Sometimes I just shake me head. It really is a different existance we live in this foster care war.
OHHHHh, and to make matters worse, a little one we have, who just turned 1 today, has an over zealous CASA, who thinks she can come once a week at any time she chooses. Who cares if I work and have kinda sorta a life. Dr. appts for one and all and it's Christmas with lots of "stuff" on the calendar.
I wonder why more people aren't foster parents? or want to foster to adopt?

Friday, November 30, 2007

If anything is true, this is.....

Making the decision to have a child is momentous.

It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body."

~Elizabeth Stone

Sunday, November 25, 2007

I'm Smart enough to understand them, They just wont let me join!

Mensa Invitational:

Here is Washington Post's Mensa Invitational,which once again asked readers to take any word from the dictionary, alter it by adding, subtracting, or changing one letter, and supply a new definition.
Here are the winners:
1. Cashtration (n.): The act of buying a house, which renders the subject financially impotent for an indefinite period of time.
2. Ignoranus : A person who's both stupid and an asshole.
3. Intaxication : Euphoria at getting a tax refund, which lasts until you realize it was your money to start with.
4. Reintarnation : Coming back to life as a hillbilly. (I don't much care for this one. )
5. Bozone ( n.): The substance surrounding stupid people that stops bright ideas from penetrating. The bozone layer, unfortunately, shows little sign of breaking down in the near future.
6. Foreploy : Any misrepresentation about yourself for the purpose of getting laid.
7. Giraffiti : Vandalism spray-painted very, very high
8. Sarchasm: The gulf between the author of sarcastic wit and the person who doesn't get it.
9. Inoculatte : To take coffee intravenously when you are running late.
10. Osteopornosis : A degenerate disease. (This one got extra credit.)
11. Karmageddon : It's like, when everybody is sending off all these really bad vibes, right? And then, like, the Earth explodes and it's like, a serious bummer.
12. Decafalon (n.): The gruelling event of getting through the day consuming only things that are good for you.
13. Glibido : All talk and no action.
14. Dopeler Effect: The tendency of stupid ideas to seem smarter when they come at you rapidly.
15. Arachnoleptic Fit (n.): The frantic dance performed just after you've accidentally walked through a spider web.
16. Beelzebug (n.) : Satan in the form of a mosquito, that gets into your bedroom at three in the morning and cannot be cast out.
17. Caterpallor ( n.): The color you turn after finding half aworm in the fruit you're eating.

Thursday, November 22, 2007


We have so much to be thankful and blessed for.
It's impossible to list them all.
The very air we breath is something to be thankful for
Living in a country where we can still openly worship our Savior
The list at my house would go on for miles!
Hopefully next week, after those pesky finger prints come back, we'll be a little closer to being thankful for one more blessing. A date or at least a pretend date, till it changes, for an adoption signing!
Hope everyone had a Great Day, and remembered at least a few of the things there are to be thankful for in this journey we call living!

Wednesday, November 14, 2007

I think I have some good news!

I think I have good news, but I'm not sure? Only with DFACS/adoption is this quandry understood!
Big G boy's social worker came over last night and said the only thing holding up the adoption was the finger prints from the forgotten 18 yr old in our house. But those are to be done by "LIVE SCAN" and relativly new piece of techie stuff, and runs your finger prints in "real time" thru all the FBI files. supposedly takes about 15-30 minutes to get the results instead of the usual 6-10 WEEKS, if they are not behind schedule. (it took 5 months for them to come back for our foster care clearance!) So she was saying IF the finger prints come back AND results get emailed to her that day, and IF she can submit them with our already put together packet the following day, MAYBE the adoption papers can be signed before the end of November. BUT OF COURSE there are all those pesky holidays in there to contend with. Oh, like Thurs and Friday is a holiday for DFACS, but she's put in to be off Wed before thanksgiving and the following MONDAY! Soooo, if the moon and stars alighn perfectly, no glitch in the paper work and GOD comes down and MAKES THEM sign them, it might just happen!
I told her to play up the fact that November is National Adoption month, and wouldn't it be SO COOL, if they could brag on how many adoption this county got done in November! Since they have about 9 coming up in the next couple of weeks, let make it 10!
But keep us in your prayers. this is mentally taxing . and we haven't even had to worry about birth parent visits, ect, ect, since he was abandoned with no father they could find. All in all we've had a pretty easy time in that dept. but we just want it over. So no one can tell us what we can and can't do with our son.
I promise when this is over, I'm going to post the biggest picture ever on here, and you will fall in love with this boy, he's so cute you could just pinch his chubby checks, which I do!

Tuesday, November 13, 2007

You know your nobody but a Mother When.....

My cell phone rang at an odd time last night. But I'm glad I answered it. I'll probably never have another conversation like it......
Me: Hello
Male Daddy type caller: Yes, is this Lauren's mother? (tone implys, if you are, I got something to tell you)
Me: No, I'm sorry, you.....
a Daddy: How about Amy?
Me: Let's make this easy, I am Nicole's mother, Sarah's mother, Mika's mother, and soon to The big G boy's mother.
a Daddy: OH, Terribly sorry, I have the wrong mother.

My first thought when I got off the phone was,"wow, how did I get that many kids?"
Second thought: MIIIIKKKKAAA, do you know a Lauren or a Amy?

Saturday, November 10, 2007


HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO THE GREATEST MEN I'VE EVER KNOWN! Men of great honor,courage,pride, integrity & love. I've never known a real Marine who didn't have all of these traits & more.
I've never been so proud as to walk beside my husband when colors were called on base, to see him stop, face Colors and salute. And to this day watch our grown daughters stop and look for a flag when they hear taps. They learned it from the best.
HERE'S A SECRET,just between you and me.
I ONLY MARRIED MY HUSBAND BECAUSE HE LOOKed SO GORGEOUS IN HIS MARINE DRESS BLUES. There is nothing better, greater, wonderful, gorgeous, SEXY, proud than a Marine in his dress blue uniform. Of course I've stayed for nearly 20 years for different reasons! But that uniform started it all. kinda. It was really cammies, but that's a different story :)

Friday, November 09, 2007

I Stole This......

I stole this from MEEK THE JERKS AND ME. I don't think she will mind me sharing tho.
and as the wife of a Marine for 18 years, I can tell you ,MAIL lifts spirits more than anything (other than coming home) Give it a try, I did, it's FREE too!

Wednesday, November 07, 2007


My name is Sammi. I am D's 3 legged border colie. I am 12 years old. My hobbies are laying on her bed and the couch. I love to jump on all the social workers, casa workers, therapist, and random people who seem to come in this house all the time. Crying babies never get on my nerves. I go sleep in the walk in closet up stairs so I can't hear them. I am a good dog.
Dfacs gets on my nerves. That's all I have the energy for today. That's me talking now, not Sammi.

Tuesday, November 06, 2007


I'd like to say I carved him, but I didn't. I just had the idea and made my husband carve him up. I'm a thinker not a doer. :)

Saturday, November 03, 2007


My husband says I can't sleep unless I surrounded by my "nest of book"

This is what my nightstand looks like. I'm too embarassed to show you the coffee table I moved in my bedroom to hold the rest of the "I'm gonna read them sooner of later books"!

What does your book list or nest look like ?
(that very top book, is one of my biggest coups to date. Joshilyn Jackson's "The Girl Who stopped swimming".Not out til March 2008! I can't wait to start it. I love her books, it's the kind you don't want to end!

Monday, October 29, 2007

Where do babies come from?

conversation in the car:
6 yr old foster son; Mrs. D?
yes bubby?
did you see that sign?
you mean the hospital bill board about babies?
and, what's your question?
It says "tanner: where BABIES comes from"
Yes, and?
But you told your friend, it was a lie, babies come from DFACS.
How ever it was funny and around this place it's true!

Saturday, October 27, 2007


I. SAID. NO....
TO DFACS! I'm not proud of myself. I've never told them that we can't take anymore children. But I realized after last week when they called for us to take in a sibling group of 3 & we told them we had no bed/care space for them. and they said "are you sure?" they neather have our best interest at heart (OVER LOADED, NEARING BREAKDOWN) Nor do they have the best interest of the kids. Who wants to double up in strange beds, with so many kids, ect? So my husband told them NO, since they called him on those kids.
But yesterday, they called me for a sibling grp of 2. Well if they want to sleep in the floor and ride on the roof, we can take them! She actually paused to think about this!! And then I said, I'm sorry, we really are over our "quota" anyway. and there is just no room. I SAID NO!
I'm so proud of myself! and my sanity patted me on the back!

Tuesday, October 23, 2007

Is ANTHING easy about adopting from foster care?

Something, anything! ?
Why? WHY? does any and everything cause the whole system to grind to a halt?
This boy has been legally adoptable since 8/31/07. We have had him since 7/06. We've been foster parents for 3 years. There is nothing they don't know about us, our house, our pets or our septic tank(don't ask) At any given time there is at least 1 social worker/therapist in my house once a week.Dfacs has every shred of paperwork on us that's possible to have. Last week they said we may have a court date for the adoption by next week! yea, yea!
I get an email today that says our 18 yr old did'nt sign her finger print card! It'll be at least 6-8 weeks to have those processed, maybe a little longer since the "system" is backed up. OK, she didn't sign the card, I understand that. BUT, BUT it's not like she came to live with us yesterday, she's been around, oh, say for about 18 years and they've had these finger print cards since she turned 18 in MAY!
I wish I could rant and rave to someone who could make a difference in this thing we call the "system". Do you want to know WHY people go outside the country to adopt? WHY you can't get good foster families to stay? Why people literally give up trying adopt the kids you've placed with them?
We have to tell you every minute detail of our lives, marriage, families, right down to things we've never told a living soul and you "the system" maintain the right to not tell us a single thing to help us parent, love, bond or give these kids a family.
I wonder where foster care & foster to adopt will be in 10 years? Better than today? or nonexistant, because no one is capable or has the desire to deal with the system?

Monday, October 22, 2007


Who would you be if...
you could be a mix of your favorite blogs you read?? And Why?

I would be Perri, because she is smart and funny and sure looks like she can cook. And appears she has the patients of a saint and very inventive and FULL of energy(that I covet!)and knows what it's like to start a young family, when your not so young.
I would be thepioneerwoman because she lives on a ranch and take awsome pictures, tell a mean story, has a crazy since of humor and gets to look at cowboys all day !
I would be antique mommy because she is funny & real and knows what it's like to have a young'n, when your not!
I would be Joshilyn Jackson, Well, who wouldn't want to be? She's the best southern writer since my beloved Lewis Grizzard! and she's funny, and can write, she's real and not all uppity.
I would be Tnfarmgirl, cause really I am one. God, my husband and the military (not really in that order or maybe so) stuck me in this sub division with yard natzi. Anyway, back to Tnfarmgirl. They live off the land, in God's very own country, and she makes EVERYTHING! AND I am ever so jealous of her and her ability to do that.
and smockityfrock, boys does she evergy and creativity!
OK, I could probably go on forever.
But now it's your turn.......

Thursday, October 18, 2007


Ok Heidi,
here goes. I've never been tagged before and I'm pretty boring to boot. So it will take me hours to figure out what to put down!
Jobs I've had:
2-bank teller in japan
3-accts receivable clerk

I have lived:
1-Cleveland, Tn
2-Indpls, In
3-Camp LeJune, NC
4-Okinawa, Japan
5-29 palms, CA & trust me, more places than I can count ...or remember at this point

Food I love:
1-REAL Japanese food
2-REAL Japanese food
3-hot wings
4-BLT salad

Websites I visit daily:
1-pioneer woman

Places I'd rather be:
1. Okinawa, Japan
2-Tellico Plains, Tn
3-almost any place other than where I am :(

Movies I love:
1-oh brother where art thou
2- the apostle
3-steel magnolias

TV shows I watch:
(Don't judge here)
1. Big Brother
4- pushing daisies--new favorite
It's a good thing books aren't on here. I read like a pig eats!
Thanks for the trip down memory lane Heidi, that was fun!

Sunday, October 07, 2007


I am convinced that the whole world is kept in it's orbit by the very hope,faith & love every mother has in HER child, to do and be and carry one every good and right "thing" we have taught and prayed for them. Without that hope and faith we mother's have, what would the world be like?

We Sit We wait We stew over THE system......

Why does the "system" keep children in longer than they need to be there? TPR was done August 31st. We've been foster parents for years. They have all the papers in the world they need. Plus we have been his foster parents for ohhhhhh say 15 months now. So they've been in our house at LEAST once a month for 15 months, so we must be at the least tolerable foster parents, good enough to raise him lo, these past 15 months. SO why in God's name is it taking so long to get the adop0tion hearing on court docket?
They wonder why good foster parents are hard to find. Why we get so upset or feedup with the whole thing. Am I missing something? Being too hard on them? Not giving them the time needed? paperwork HA? PLEASE, they know more about me than any entity on earth, maybe even my husband!
I get so tired of the" you"ll be hearing from me next week phone call" one of those at this point is 2 months old, still haven't heard from HER. The last one, bless her heart is only 3 weeks old. But tomorrow is Monday, maybe it will bring a phone call. HEY....I have nothing better to do than wait on our fate with DFACS. I'm making a big deal out of nothing.
Dang, I am starting to get too sarcastic. They are changing my very personality.
Maybe time to throw in that proverbial towel.

Tuesday, September 25, 2007


I've been reading scrap by nobody for sometime now. She is good as in person & writer. I think they are foster to adopt. But listening to her and her words of wisdom is amazing. She has so much wisdom. here is her most recent post that spoke directly to my foster parent/getting ready to adopt that boy of ours heart. I think every social work, DFACS worker, CASA, Advocate, Judge, ect, ect should read it, absorb it, take it to heart, LISTEN. This is our life as foster parents, whether or not you intend to adopt them.

A recent, kind commenter called our family courageous. In customary fashion I tried to mentally brush the word off. It seems a bit over the top for what I do...most of which involves copious amounts of dirty laundry and dishes. But I got to thinking about the word for a few minutes. In fact, I got to thinking about it for long enough that I decided to look up a definition. Here's what I got:
Courageous: able to face and deal with danger or fear without flinchingI like the definition, because when I just searched for courage, it spoke of an absence of fear...and I knew this just didn't seem entirely right. But note this definition. There is no absence of fear, but an ability to face fear. I think this is terribly important, because fear is a very huge part of what we are doing here. I remember going to our birthing classes years ago, and under all the hope and happiness was fear. Fear of what can go wrong, fear of failure, fear of the future. I remember going to our adoption preparation classes, and under all the hope and happiness was an enormous fear. Much greater than the fear at birthing class.Those teaching the classes foster the fear. They talk of "worst case scenarios" in an attempt to not leave you unprepared. But fear is not preparation. We begin to ask ourselves questions, and they all begin with two words. What if...the children don't like us? What if they have needs we cannot provide for? What if they feel like outsiders...don't attach to our family? The questions get harder, and we often dodge them at this stage, telling ourselves, "This is only hypothetical... this wouldn't likely happen to us." What if the children are destructive? What if they hurt or kill our pets? What if they are sexually active? What if they hurt my bio child? What if my marriage begins to suffer? Then the children come home, and in the whirl of settling in you ask no only put your shoulder to the wheel because there is just so much work to be done. You are happy to work. This is what you signed on for.But in time the dust settles. The work becomes a routine, and the quiet questions begin somewhere in the back of your mind. Now the questions are very specific. What if this one has FAS? Will they ever be able to care for themselves? What if one child is preying on another behind a closed door? Can I live with the destruction of our family's belongings? What if my husband loses his job because of one of these children? What to do about the spouse who gains thirty pounds in only a few months because of stress? How do I deal with my bio child sobbing, saying, "I just can't deal with this noise and craziness anymore."? Now the fear becomes very real.I think the fear is what separates us from the rest of the world. If all I wanted to do was be charitable and help someone, I could have done a hundred things; all of them noble, and useful, and good. But very few of them would require courage. I could leave the sanctuary of my loving home every day of my life and work for the good of others. I could be well paid to do it, or give it away for free. But some families choose to offer up the very best they have. They open up that sanctuary called their home, their family, their marriage. Some go in with eyes wide open, and others not so much. The common denominator is fear. Absolutely everything that might go wrong, can and often will.Here are the courage questions to ask yourself. Can I love a child who harms and destroys that which I love? Can I change my expectations and not be bitter? Can I live with a pervading sense of failure? Can I live in "fear without flinching"? And of course when I am honest with myself I know I cannot. I don't even want to. Courage sucks. Being courageous means there must be something to be afraid of to begin with, some risk to be taken. I think most of us living our comfortable, secure lives don't want danger to knock on our door. We only take challenge when it is thrust upon us...and yet we are so uplifted by stories of courage. We hear them and have a vague sense that there is something we are missing.I have had it said to me along the way, that my new daughters are very courageous. I agree, but not for the reasons most are referring to. It does not require courage to be tossed into a lifeboat by force. What my daughters truly do know, is fear. They have crawled into every dark hole to escape from their fear. What demands courage, is to allow yourself to be coaxed out of the hole. It demands courage to decide to live above an animal level, existing only for your bread and a safe place to lay your head. It requires courage to even want more. I see my daughters' courage when they choose to rise above their apathy and work hard, and believe there will actually be a payoff in the future. I see their courage when they do wrong and choose to tell the truth, trusting that this strange parent-creature will deal fairly with them. Their courage feeds my courage, and mine feeds theirs.I realize that the battle we wage is not so very different... and a battle analogy is apt. Some of us have signed up to be soldiers, and others here got drafted. But we all have to go through our training, become fit for battle, and learn courage. It requires us to take risk, travel light, be flexible. We must face our fear without yes, I will take "courageous". I sure like it better than "saint" or "crazy"!

Saturday, September 22, 2007


AMY over at www.
started this discussion, and it was very interesting. I'm sure most of our children raised in Church/Christian home have come up with their own theology. Here's one of mine. My 18 yr old has left us with many, this is just one.
What do you have?

This was some 13 yrs ago. Our youngest was in Christian School. she was in 1st grade. They had evidently been talking about satan, and the part he plays in the evil that happens here on earth. That night she came home and needed to have a very serious talk about what they learned in school. (her daddy, a marine at the time was stationed in Japan, so no help was coming on the advice front)She said since the devil was to blame for all this evil going around, she felt that if he would just accept Jesus Christ as his savior, all would be made right in the world. She asked if we could start praying for his salvation. I made a few attempts at explaining he knew exactly who Jesus was, but was not at all interested in salvation. Pretty much the impossibility of the whole thing. But she was not having any part of it. She said, “you told me ANYBODY could except Jesus as their savior” and I want to pray that the devil will accept Jesus into his heart. So I threw theology to wind for a month and we prayed the devil would accept Jesus as his Lord & Savior! NOt theologically correct, I know. But I also know that God knows the heart of a 6 year and her good intentions. I’ll treasure her zest for knowing salvation is for all who accept it, till the day I meet that wonderful Savior face to face.

Monday, September 10, 2007


A Friend Is Like A Good Bra...
Hard to Find
Always Lifts You Up
Never Lets You Down or Leaves You Hanging
And Is Always Close To Your Heart!!!

Thursday, September 06, 2007


This past weekend we went to visit my mother in law who is 92 years old. We were talking about how her brother and sister died in their 90's and her sister in particular when she was 92. She went on to say she was "kindly afraid of turning 92" seeing how her sister died when she was 92. She said she didn't know many people who made it to their 90's. My husband trying to reassure her said,"the oldest woman is something like 116, I bet you can beat her" My mother in law laughed and said, "well, SHE'S so old I bet she can't even wiggle!"
Coming from a woman who still keeps her house, plants a garden and mows an acre of lawn by herself. It was funny.
Until I realized I was 42 and some days I find it hard to even wiggle. Let alone vaccuum.

Sunday, August 26, 2007

I know who I am.......


I am God's child (John 1:12)I am Christ's friend (John 15:15)I am united with the Lord(1 Cor. 6:17)I am bought with a price(1 Cor. 6:19-20)I am a saint (set apart for God). (Eph. 1:1)I am a perso nal witness of Christ (Acts 1:8)I am the salt & light of the earth (Matt.5:13-14)I am a member of the body of Christ(1 Cor 12:27)I am free forever from condemnation (Rom. 8: 1-2)I am a citizen of Heaven. I am significant (Phil.3:20)I am free from any charge against me (Rom. 8:31-34)I am a minister of reconciliation for God(2 Cor.5:17-21)I have access to God through the Holy Spirit (Eph. 2:18)I am seated with Christ in the heavenly realms (Eph. 2:6)I cannot be separated from the love of God(Rom.8:35-39)I am established, anointed, sealed by God (2 Cor.1:21-22)
I am assured all things work together for good (Rom. 8: 28)I have been chosen and appointed to bear fruit (John 15:16)I may approach God with freedom and confidence (Eph. 3: 12)I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me (Phil. 4:13)I am the branch of the true vine, a channel of His life (John 15: 1-5)I am God's temple (1 Cor. 3: 16). I am complete in Christ (Col. 2: 10)I am hidden with Christ in God (Col. 3:3). I have been justified (Romans 5:1)I am God's co-worker (1 Cor. 3:9; 2 Cor 6:1). I am God's workmanship(Eph. 2:10)I am confident that the good works God has begun in me will be perfected (Phil. 1: 5)I have been redeemed and forgiven (Col. 1:14). I have been adopted as God's child(Eph 1:5)I belong to God
Do you knowwho you are!?
"The LORD bless you and keep you;the LORD make His face shine upon you and be gracious to you; the LORD turn His face toward you and give you peace."Numbers 6:24-26

Tuesday, August 21, 2007


I am not a good mother
I do not live an exciting life
I can't spell
my kids & me are boring
my kids are not witty/smart
IIII am not witty/smart
I read too many blogs of perfect moms, or near perfect anyway
I depress easily after reading the blogs of perfect/witty/great cooks
however to be fair, I got a note home on one of my foster children who during nap time was making farting noises with his arms and got moved to RED! does classify as witty or sad?
I need to stop reading so many blogs. I can see when I start staying home full time to be a mommy, my days will be filled with too many blogs and not enough laundry/dinner.

Thursday, August 16, 2007

OH, so healthy.....Oh, I'm so cheap......

In our decision to adopt this boy of ours, we decided maybe this go round we would try to establish some"healthy" eating habits in him (it's too late for us) He's knocking on 2, and just recently had his first taste of sweet tea! Yep, I know, I'm a good mommy. Hey, that is good, you know. My 25 yr old was chuging coke out of a baby bottle at his age. But I've gone to nursing school since then OK & got ahold of some common sence along the long way.
Anyhow, we decided organic, hormon & antibiotic free milk would be a good start. So start it we did. It's expensive! But hey, the little guy is worth it, that and not having him antibiotic resistant, and having a beard in 5th grade. So I come across this great deal on , (go see her if you haven't. She has THE BEST FREEBY OR CLOSE TO IT SITE, you've ever seen.) A great deal from Amazon on Horizon organic milk in little sippy boxes, not found in your regular grocery store/walmart. Free shipping and everything. (by the way, one of the pluses is it doesn't have to be refridgerated)So like a good mommy, I go there and buy 2 CASES. (it was a good sale, free shipping and all) So they deliver it yesterday and I so happily put some in the fridge for him and then I'm all like, "DRINK, DRINK LITTLE BOY, IT'S GOOD FOR YOU!" AND HE DOES.
sO I go visit wantnot today as usual, as you never know what good deals she'll have. and there on the screen she's apoligizing for the "milk trouble" she'd caused because so many people had ordered. Apparnetly I am blind & stupid & can't read, because she said there on the box, it said " KEEP AT 80 F OR BELOW".
People, I live on the surface of the sun right now! well kinda, it's been 102 for days here. If you don't factor in how hot it got to be in that UPS truck, while he ate his lunch in the air conditioning at Waffle HOuse! Of course she said to call Amazon, and all would be well, and I did, and they did.
But now I sit here looking at 2 cases of very expensive milk and my only thought is,"Do you really think it would make him sick if he drank it? THAT is an awful lot of milk to throw out." Besides he drank some last night, before his blind mother to be knew of the big bold warning on the box.
Dang, I'm cheap.

Wednesday, August 15, 2007

HOT, you don't know HOT!

Whew! Its HOT out there!


The birds have to use potholders to pull worms out of the ground.
The best parking place is determined by shade instead of distance.
Hot water now comes out of both taps.
You can make sun tea instantly.
You learn that a seat belt buckle makes a pretty good branding iron.
The temperature drops below 95 and you feel a little chilly.
You discover that in August it only takes 2 fingers to steer your car.
You discover that you can get sunburned through your car window.
You actually burn your hand opening the car door.You break into a sweat the instant you step outside at 7:30 a.m.
Your biggest bicycle wreck fear is, "What if I get knocked out and end uplying on the pavement and cook to death?"
You realize that asphalt has a liquid state.
The potatoes cook underground, so all you have to do is pull one out and add butter, salt and pepper.
Farmers are feeding their chickens crushed ice to keep them from layingboiled eggs.
The cows are giving evaporated milk.
Ah, what a place to call home. . . God Bless Our State of Georgia!!

HOLD IT.there's more.....

If you are not a resident of GEORGIA or never have lived in the hot,humid South, you may not understand the weight of this blessing!
Bless this house, oh Lord, we cry. Please keep it cool in mid-July(& all of August.
Bless the walls where termites dine,While ants and roaches march in time.Bless our yard where spiders pass Fire ant build castles in the grass. Bless the garage, a home to please Carpenter beetles, ticks and fleas. Bless the love bugs, two by two, the gnats and mosquitoes that feed on you.Millions of creatures that fly or crawl, in GEORGIA, Lord, you've put them all!!But this is home, and here we'll stay,So thank you Lord, for insect spray.

Saturday, August 11, 2007

When the Holy Spirit smacks you in the head!

We've been having a few "issues" with our youngest daughter. Too detailed and painful to go into. (just keep us in your prayers, He knows)
But as I stood making egg salad today, ( don't laugh, my life IS exciting). I was thinking/praying. God, if she would only come to me with a truely repentant heart and the right attitude, all would be forgiven. That's all it would take. Why doesn't she see that and swollow her pride?
and do you know what God said to me?"Yea, boy, don't I know! How many times do you think I've said that to YOU? You know, the the Holy Spirit sure has a way with words, that cut quickly to the bone.
I guess our relation ship with our Father mirrors that of ours & our children more closely than we give it credit most times.
I guess everyone needs a good slap from the Holy Spirit every once in awhile. Some of us more often than others.

Tuesday, August 07, 2007


Perri said she thought, once termination was done on the parents- meaning they are no longer the parent of this child, any children they had or may have ,is also not legally the sibling of the child you are adopting. Which is the case here, since a newborn was taken just weeks ago.
anybody want a healthy newborn male. Just speak up. we have a bounty it seems.
thank you perri for all the peace of mind you offer unselfishly.

The HoHum days of a very HOT summer Here!

Please forgive the ramblings. I have so much going on, I don't know if I'm coming or going.
We got a new "addition" a couple of weeks ago. She 8 months old. and these little ones sometimes take the separation a little worse than the older ones. They have no idea what just happened to mom, grandma, or who ever the care taker might have been. So they do the only thing they know to do and that is cry. and CRY this one does. She's getting better. I sometimes wonder what's going thru their little minds as I sit rocking them, I know she knows I'm a stranger. Does she feel lost, alone, sad maybe? I know my grandson or new grandaughter would be devastated without my daughter, she is their world, no one can take care of a baby the way their mother does. (a good mother that is)
But of course I wouldn't have these babies if they had a mother like my very own pride and joy. (I'm sightly predjudise on that, but I did teach her a few mommy tips in her life. And she is a wonderful mommy, and my son in law a good daddy.)
I just wonder about "my babies" that come thru my house sometimes. I hope I'm doing a little good, until they find that family that wants them more than anything on earth or they make their way back to their birth parents.
The five yr old we have will break your heart, short story, had a foster to adopt familyfor a year! who said, ummmm, maybe not, put him back in the system. He's adorable and so very intelligent, I pray for a good,kind,loving home for this boy, who deserves so much more.
I have all these depressing fellings around these 2 in our home. But I loose track of the fact that God has given us our little boy, that TPR has been done on, we're waiting our 30 "come back days" and then just a court date to make him ours. NOw this is one loved little man, who I don't have to worry about finding a good Christian couple who will raise him to Love & serve God all the days of his life! But boy am I going to be old doing it. My saintly husband is more excited than I am.
Closer to adoption time I will unvail THE NEW NAME! Yes, we are changing his name, I know this bugs alot of people, including social workers.....but I don't care. We have our reasons.
and I will post a gen-u-wine, real Picture of the boy, when he becomes ours.
I think I've rambled enough tonight as to bore you have silly.
So I will go and prepare for the most awful experience in my life....getting 5 yr old off to public school. I praise God everyday for the means he has given us to send our baby (18 yr old) to private school. And pray we will be able to do the same for the big G boy when it's time.
I've opened all kinds of worms with some of these bye for now and don't hate me. I have my reasons for all them.

Tuesday, July 31, 2007


it was over and done within 15 minutes! The judge said, this, this & this happened, so I move to terminate parental rights today with a hearing in 30 days showing no one has come foreward to contest. So it's just a matter of waiting & then waiting again for an adoption date!
thanks for all your prayers, I needed them. I'll post more later

Sunday, July 29, 2007



Tuesday, July 24, 2007

I really should proof read my entries before I post

Why didn't anybody tell me, that I am a terrible typer,speller and proof reader?
I go back and reread my posts and think, "what were you thinking or not thinking? A 6 yr old would've caught that!"
Thanks guys. I'll be sure and tell YOU next time your slip is showing. 'Cause that's what good friends DO!

Monday, July 23, 2007


JULY 31st COMES WITH A VENGENCE! 'TIS THE DAY OF RECKONING. TPR (TERMINATION OF PARENTAL RIGHTS) will be done on our boy. However, we found out a little kicker. There was a sibling taken from the birth mother in another county a few weeks back and we're not sure the impact this will have on his adoption. Here, in our state, siblings are kept together almost at all costs. But our little man has been in the "system" for nearing 13 months. So were not sure what bearing if any this will have.

wait, wait, wait. And so many IF's, it's one of many reasons I fear puting everything out there, emotionally speaking. What if something happens? What if she wants him back. She has 30 days from TPR to come back and say, "oh I was busy for the last 13 months and would like to have him back now". That would kill us both. And I know we can't do another baby (his sibling) Unless God help me, He has yet another surprise for me.

A special thanks to perri for her wonderful advice and her friend Heidi too. You'll never know how much it means to have an understanding ear to hear you out!

please pray for us that this will go smoothly!

Saturday, July 21, 2007

I KNOW IT'S been a Long Time AGAIN!....

I have had quite the serious deliberation going over & over in my head for some weeks now.

Adoption the the average couple who are looking for that is quite the no brainer.

But as all of you who read my blog, now we foster ONLY!

Well, one of the little guys got under of skin (very OLD skin, I might add) I will only give you the ages for comparison & pity's sake, ME-42, hubby-53. 3 grown daughters 25/21/ & the baby is 18 and will be a Sr. in a private H.S this year.

It looks like we are going to do what I said would never happen.

We are going to adopt the 18 month old that we have had for 13 months. We love the little devil. But I fear being "an older parent". I was alway in the " you started how young catagory?"

Perri, how do I handle this "old mommy" thing? What is something happens to us.

There is so much to think/worry/whine about.

This is a huge step. Is it fair to our other kids?grandkids?

Daycare is soo expensive, I may have to stop working. I've never NOT worked, what do you do all day long?

I've got so much to think about, pray about and BEG OPINIONS FROM YOU GOOD PEOPLE. tHERE are no bad advise. Any advise or questions, ect is welcome at this point.

I think I may be deserate. *sigh* and I think I may need one of those wooden tree house/swing sets, to go where my garden is now.


Monday, April 16, 2007

She's soooooo pretty

What a pretty puppy. Grow strong MeMe's boy. You'll have to protect her someday from the big bad world and yucky boys!


I stole this from Rocks in my Dryer (cause I like it, and I need to remember it when I look in my garage......the one where I can't get a piece of paper, let alone my CAR!

There are two ways to get enough: one is to accumulate more and more. The other is to desire less. --G.K. Chesterton

Tuesday, April 03, 2007




Monday, April 02, 2007

It's been a while but I have good reason, See....

This is Ms. Precious Puppy
wgt : 8'3
length: 20 1/4
born 8/26/07 @ 8:30pm

It's been a while since I've posted, but I have a good reason. Other than running 3- 15 month olds all over the place and working!

I just got to be MEME to the most beautiful baby girl in the world. It's alot like being MEME to the most beautiful boy in the world. Except she's not as spoiled as he is. yet.

She looks like she's 3 months old, she's so big. I have no idea how my tiny daughter has 8 lbs babies.

Her brother called her a "puppy" the first time he got to see her. So of course this will stick for a while. Her pepaw will say, "let's go see the precious puppy"

Her hair is so blond, it looks platnum ?(sp) Maybe she decided to dye it before making her journey out. What color would you call that? I mean, other than beautiful?

Tuesday, February 27, 2007

You know this waiting to see if a foster baby is going to come up for adoption is hard, emotional business. Worst than that, its the thought that who may ever adopt them, will not be wonderful,loving parents.
I need a vacation. 3- 1 yr olds will kill a 40 yr old woman! it's a proven fact!

Wednesday, February 21, 2007

If your thinking of becoming foster parents. Please research it. Know that the strain on your family is real. Even in the most devoted, loving couples it can cause all kinds of problems. It seems fairly cut and dry, especally in the classes. Well, real life sets in real fast.

Are you the kind of family that likes to do things together? make sure that car/van will hold everybody. Sounds simple, but it gets complicated. Do both of you work? Make sure you can take time off work without repercussions, they don't send healthy kids in to care. They are sick, and most need to go to the Dr alot, or evals of some sort. they like to tell you respite care for the kids is there whenever you need it. Well, take this into consideration. Most foster homes are at capacity already and are unable to take yours when you need a break or go on vacation.

I don't mean to be a downer, but after 2 yrs, it starts to take it's toll. We need more foster parents, but a new system also.

Please don't get me wrong, I wouldn't change what we're doing to help our babies at all. I just wish I would have been better informed, other than the "fru-fru classed, that makes it seem a more romantic than it is.

Any questions? I'll be glad to answer them as honestly as I can. Keeping in mind things vary from state to state.

I will end with it's one of the most rewarding things I've ever done. But a little REAL prep never hurt anybody!

Sunday, February 18, 2007

I can't get back to my old blog, so I guess I've moved in here...

Tuesday, December 12, 2006

Ok, I'm getting kind of paranoid. I really think God is saying, "umm, hey dense girl, I REALLY DON'T WANT YOU BEING A FOSTER PARENT, HERE'S SOME RING WORM TO PROVE IT". I thought we had gone thru our plagues, but it seems we missed out on the ring worm thing! So hey! sign me up. Plus the twins snort and carry on like bull dogs, NO REally! and one drinks so fast, the milk comes back out his nose! or at least I think it's from drinking so fast. I've been around the block a few times, and I have never seen this trick before. Oh sure, once my accident, but every bottle?Maybe a foster care break is called for after this go round is over.
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Friday, December 08, 2006

I do so love my plague carriers. So far the lice is gone! (thank you God) The twins continue to have health problems, as you would assume if you were starved the first yr of your life. They always have a runny nose & a slight temp all the time. But when you take them to the dr, & nothing! They have gained about 3 lbs each in the 3 weeks we've had them. Not bad, but I can beat that any day! They eat like nothing I've ever seen and go thru so many diapers, I think they secretly EAT them after I put them to bed at night. I think I'm going to take the diapers out of their room.I'm still exhausted all the time. And they wonder why they see so many "multiples" come thru care. OHHH, want to hear a good joke? Someone ohhing and aahhing over all the babies in the cart at walmart SAID," I bet you get alot of money from the state to do this." My answer? I peed my pants from laughing so hard as I handed over 60.00 for diapers & 30.00 for baby food. Yep, I'm just rolling in dough.
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Thursday, December 07, 2006

A wonderful website to go to this Christmas season to help lift the spirits of our troops over seas is It costs nothing but your time, but I promise will mean alot to them. There is nothing better than mail, when your over there.
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Tuesday, December 05, 2006

A wonderful blogger that I like to read MugwumpMom has lost her beloved mother in law to cancer. By all accounts a wonderful, loving, giving Christian woman, who will be missed by her family and friends. What her wonderful daughter in law had to say about her made me start to think about the legacy I would want to leave behind. Would my family say the wonderful things about me that MugwumpMom said about her mother in law?Isn't it wonderful that one person's words,deeds, and the way they live their lives can touch the lives of generations to come. We all need to remember her example. What we do and say and teach today will be remembered for many generations. Mothers teach your children so they may teach theirs, and they may teach theirs and they will know who Jesus is and want to live their lives for Him. I can think of no better legacy to leave behind.
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Monday, November 27, 2006

OK, people, I can't stand this much longer......really!plague #10- stomach virus, 4 kids a puking, is not funny. Mostly because I know I wont be far behind them, if they got it, I will get it.I think God is telling me,"Let my people GO!"I think it was kids who carried the Black Death, not the poor misunderstood RAT.
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Sunday, November 26, 2006

You know, sometimes you wonder why you do this crazy stuff, that drains you emotionally, physically, mentally, socially, financially, and all the other -allys. You wonder if your doing the right thing, ect.
and then one of the little plague carriers falls asleep on the catfood pad, and it just melts your heart! and you think, How can I not provide a safe, loving, catfood pad to sleep on?
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Friday, November 24, 2006

I asked God, Is it really your will for us to be foster parents?His answer so far........(if your keeping track we have 3 babies & a 4 yr old)1- twins2-lice x 23- pink eye x 34- ear infections x 45- 3 missed days of work6- runny noses x 47- cough x 48- 3 different social workers, all wanting to come to our house on different nights9- a call at 4:00 am, to see if we were interested in 4 more!!!!How many plagues did God send before the king got the message?
posted by a bra that fits & a can opener that works @ 8:31 PM 1 comments links to this post

I asked God, Is it really your will for us to be foster parents?His answer so far........(if your keeping track we have 3 babies & a 4 yr old)1- twins2-lice x 23- pink eye x 34- ear infections x 45- 3 missed days of work6- runny noses x 47- cough x 48- 3 different social workers, all wanting to come to our house on different nights9- a call at 4:00 am, to see if we were interested in 4 more!!!!How many plagues did God send before the king got the message?
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Can it be I've not posted since Monday! No way. Where did the time go?ohhhhh, by the way, add PINK EYE to the list of Plagues at my house.
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HEY, HEY, I'M HERE.........

I'm back!
I just hate new things. It tooks me forever to figure out that new google thingie.
now down to business.
**I can't seem to get rid of plague #6 or was it 7? anyway, the RINGWORM, will Not stay gone.
Anybody with any ideas? I've got topical creams, even oral meds from the Dr. It will lay dorment for awhile, then pop back up. This time for the first time, on the other twin! I'm afraid my whole house is all germy, virusie and fungusie, and I'll never get rid of any of it!
any help is NEEDED!