Sunday, January 18, 2009

Messed Up & No Way Out

If there is a more messed up case than Baby Weepy's (other than Nita's) I don't want to know about it. There are more holes, loop holes, lies, battles, no one cares- everyone cares-I can't do anything about it-let them do it-I don't have time-money-resources. I'm in jail-your in jail-you're going to jail-I just got out, no job, no house, no car & no care, in this boy's case than I've seen in a longggg time....And NO way out for the most important person in the battle...Baby Weepy. Every relative will do just enough to keep this poor kid in care til he's 3 or 4 yrs old.
Why, in all that is Holy do the people involved not just sign over custody, so he will have a decent home? The old, "I'm not going to take care of him, but I'm not going to let anybody else who wants to do it, do it, either" mentality drives me crazy. What is going on in these people's head? Nothing? Do they not understand the damage they're doing to their children?
sorry, insert sound of scooting my soap box back under my bed. I notice it's getting a little worn. It's not so solid anymore, it seems a little shakie, a little rickety, the paint's wore off.
Maybe it's time to get it fixed...or give it to someone else who could better use it than I.


Torina said...

That sucks. I don't get it either. One of my kids has a mom like that. She is doing everything she can to jeopardize his adoption...yet she won't quit dealing drugs or doing them or breaking the law and she sure as heck won't have a civil conversation with one of her kids. Like say, be nice to them. Ahhh, if only she had fed them or given them a hug once.

But yet, my boy was still returned to her several times...

I hope that something will go right in your kid's case.

Anonymous said...

Take heart--sometimes things DO work out and sometimes people DO do the right thing. It's rare, I know, but miracles do happen. My BabyGirl's case is one such miracle. Literally, when we first met M, she, her two brothers, one sister, mother AND father were ALL in the same jail while M. was pregnant with our BabyGirl. ALL involved in drugs, violent crimes, etc., etc., etc.,....her mother tried to talk her out of signing over custody, but she did the right thing.

Poor BabyWeepy. I'll be praying for him.

Sister, leave that soap box out and keeping using it. You're making a huge difference in a small, but important, life!

Lovingmyamazinglife said...

Thats terrible,their seems to be little hope for most of the kids stuck in this system.Why do we do this again?So hard to put up with most of the time.I see my childs face and I know why we do this,but its certainly taking its toll on us,our health,mentally,physically our peace.Every thing is tested.

Kathy's Korner said...

how do we get the sysytem to be about KIDS!!! Truely about whats best for KIDS. Not whats best for "families" and the people that head them.

Anita said...

"I'm not going to take care of him, but I'll be damned if I let anyone else do it either!" That is classic. EXACTLY!

Stick some nails in and grab some glue to sturdy up your soap box and get back on it girl!!

Mothering4Money said...

Baby Weepy needs and deserves so much more than the crap his bio family has to offer (currently). I wish there was some way to make adults behave maturely and responsibly if only for the benefit of the children. Sounds like y'all are in for a long and difficult road. Any more news on the potential pregnancy of bio mom?

Anonymous said...

Fix up your soap box for the behalf of the children! Sounds very disheartening tho.

Lynn Hasty said...

Oh, I'm sorry to hear that. I don't know why that is. It's so sad.

I must admit, though, that you gave me a laugh when I read about your soapbox. Mine is creaky too. But I think for the children, I agree with the other commentator -- you can get on it.