Wednesday, December 31, 2008

Sad News

It would appear that Baby Weepy has a brother or sister due in about 6 weeks.
Dear Lord, will these people never learn? get their act together? come to their senses? Learn better or simply say, "Hey, time to be an adult and take care of my kids". These are not young people, they are wayyy old enough to know better. Does the madness ever stop? But H*l* would freeze over before she would give this new baby up for adoption. God forbid, she let someone raise the baby that wanted it more than anything. I'll never understand this. Makes no sense to me. What do you think?

10 comments:

Lovingmyamazinglife said...

They never learn,and likely she will end up losing this baby atleast temporarily too.

Perri said...

Wesley's mom just kept right on having them -- lost them each one by one by one by one by one. 5 times. At least in her case, no, she never learned.

Anonymous said...

PLEASE tell me that the plans are already in the works to remove the baby from the hospital...have they contacted you to see if you will take him or her? I don't care if I get flamed by anyone for this....It always sickens me when the system says that something has to happen to a child first when it has ALREADY happened to that child's older sibling in the same home.

The madness never stops, though. I have a friend who is a labor and delivery nurse and saw the same woman in a few years back having her 8TH child, each one of which had been removed from her custody. Her theory was that eventually they'd let her "keep" one. Sad.

Mothering4Money said...

Since Baby Weepy was recently removed from his bio parents, and given his condition upon removal, I would hope that CPS plans to take the baby from the hospital and place him or her directly into foster care (with you). If they don't, the new baby will most likely go through everything Baby Weepy went through. Such a sad situation.

Sheri said...

I don't think the baby should be automatically removed (and I adopted a severely abused FAS child from foster care) at the hospital at all! The mother and father have every right to make a change and do the right thing. Odds are they won't, but taking babies away at the hospital sickens me almost as much as the pain inflicted by some of these parents. We are not a police state that rules who should have babies and who should not. It leaves far too much room for error . . anyone read what happened on Postcards from Insanity? (http://afostermamaslife.blogspot.com/)
Crazy stuff.

That being said, there better be some really close monitoring by the system so that the parents cannot do what they did (or did not do) with baby Weepy!

Susan said...

I think these mamas have a big hole in their hearts that they think a baby will fill up, any baby. Around here we call it "baby replacement syndrome." They obsess about one good thing they've done and hold it up as the reason this baby will be different. Because whatever has gone wrong with prior pregnancies or children is not their fault (the child has brought it on themselves)the circumstances of that removal are irrelevant to the situation now. I don't think they are faking this. I think they have such an unhealthy view of themselves and their place in the world that this "read" of the situation is truly their reality. I always wonder what has happened in their lives to allow them to have such a skewed view of their lives. I think agencies would do much better for the moms and the future kids if they invested in intense therapy for these women, the "parenting" classes and group gripe sessions are a waste of time.

D said...

Sheri,
I beleive that a child should stay with the parent until pysical or mental harm/neglect finds the child in need of a different environment. However, one strike, two strikes, three strikes & starting 4 strikes AND you're 41 yrs old. You are OUT. You are not changing & another child should not suffer, because quite frankly, you don't deserve another chance to ruin another life. period. Every case is different and deserves to be looked at in the light of those circumstances. But this one has proved she's not going to do it.

Sheri said...

I am not saying she will ever change, and four chances to ruin four precious little lives is awful! I agree, but I am scared that taking babies away from mother's at the hospital (with the possible exception of drug addicted babies) is a slippery slope for many human rights violations to follow.

I have no answers, but that's my current view. As a foster parent that had false charges filed that certainly seemed plausible if you heard the child, taking children without cause, right at birth, frightens me. Maybe the answer for a mother such as this is some sort of group home where there is supervision until she proves herself? Who knows. I certainly don't.

Anita said...

No, some people will never learn. It happens all the time! And chronic abusers aren't rehabilitable,that's been proven over and over by services that continue to NOT WORK. She's probably abused her baby inutero, so it's not like she'll stop once the baby is actually born.

Patti said...

That does make me sad, really sad. :(