Tuesday, January 05, 2010

VERY random thoughts & goings-on

It feels like forever since I've blogged. So much has happened and nothing has happened.
So here goes my random-ness...

- My middle daughter gave birth to our 3rd grandson on 12/19. Cutest little boy. looks just like his mama but with black hair like his daddy. We've never had a dark haired baby in our family.
- I did really well not over indulging the kids/grand kids at Christmas
- For a few years now, it's actually gotten on my nerves with how commercialized Christmas continues to be. ( like I ever thought it would stop)
- I actually think of Christmas as 2 different holidays. One might as well celebrate winter & Santa stuff. And then we need a different day to just be with family, go to church and really honest to goodness celebrate ONLY the birth of Christ. One has nothing to do with the other. The older I get the more glaring this becomes to me.
I'm thinking next year we will do just that. Have 2 different days to celebrate these 2 very different days. I found it harder this year to correlate Santa coming to bring the boy presents and us celebrating the birth of Christ. Some of the conversations I had with the boy didn't even make sense to me. We'd do the Jesse Tree, eat candy from the advent calender, then count down the days til Santa came???
- Things just get worse and worse on the *foster care front. It really seems like they are doing everything they know to do to drive *foster parents away. Not only are we no longer being *reimbursed for diapers,wipes, clothes, shoes, food. Actually it's easier just to say, all we get 10.00 per day per* Diem and now we're being told that might be cut in half. I honestly don't know what we are going to do. NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO, we didn't make money being *foster parents to begin with, but at least they *reimbursed us for diapers & some clothing (150.00/yr) which helped greatly. Now, I really do feel like these people's nanny.(although I'm positive a nanny gets paid better & gets the weekend off) I have to take them all over the place, miss work & not even get paid mileage. Maybe it's time to throw in the towel. AND they are no more inclined to help with transport, dr appt, ect. I think I'm tired.
- Baby K's mom is getting less & less excited about his coming home, the closer it gets for it to happen. Twice she's called to say "she didn't feel good" and could I just plan on the next week. Wish I could do that. If I don't feel good or have a headache, guess what? nobody cares and I still have to take care of the babies. I had high hopes for her. Now I just wish she would sign over permanent custody to a couple I know who would love him more than anything.
Baby criesallthetime, whom I don't talk much about (came to us in march 2009) will be 2 in a couple months. His mother shows no progress other than visiting him 3 times a week. In almost 1 yr, she's not worked 1/3 of her case plan. She really does think I'm her nanny. She told me last Saturday after her visit she would like me to go with her to get his hair cut! HELLO! I don't think so. You might just think I sit at home waiting for you to tell me what to do. But I have you know I pretend I have a life. I told her it was not convenient for me and she blew a gasket.
I think this will end my randomness. The Boy went back to pre-school today for the first time in what seems like months. So my 3 hours of freedom is about up.
I think I'll go pee without an audience. Was that TMI??

9 comments:

QuEEn oF tHe cAstLe said...

I have found that peeing with the door closed is a privilege and I'm trying to figure out how my kids gained theirs and I lost mine...

I really DO think that these bio moms think we're their nanny's. Some requsets were VERY outlandish. But that's the past and I am trying hard to see a positive future... :)

Leah W said...

i am shocked to hear of the financial things going on where you are. i live in MI -aren't we the ones that have the most people out of work :) - and they haven't cut or threaten to cut anything yet. but, for the record, i have never received any reimbursement for diaper, wipes, or mileage.

we still get money for clothes and Christmas & Birthdays. they did though send TONS of foster kids home for Christmas that wouldn't normally have gone. They did that so they wouldn't have to pay the $25 for Christmas. Returned all the kids to us the next day.

Momma Rae and the Deputy said...

phew.....
i love going pee without an audience!! lol

Perri said...

You are facing some tough decisions. Praying for you.

Anonymous said...

D,thanks for the updates. We havent had any new placements and are very torn on what to do as well.Seems more and more FP's are feeling torn.Its getting harder to help the kids,due to red tape,time obligations and drawn out case plans.I stopped blogging so I could try and figure out what we plan to do.But I keep tabs on all of you and hope the BM's get their act together.If not we'll take the baby!Dang,what is with people. Stay warm,its mighty cold in our neck of the woods right now.Jill tinroofcabin

Anonymous said...

Your blog keeps getting better and better! Your older articles are not as good as newer ones you have a lot more creativity and originality now keep it up!

D said...

ohhhh,golly,{blush} Thank YOU!

Kellie said...

I'm so glad you blogged. I wondered what all was going on in your little corner of the world. Congratulations on your new grandbaby - what a wonderful Christmas gift! I'm sad that Baby K's mom isn't turning out to be as motivated and maternal as you'd hoped - sad for Baby K. I've meant to ask, do you ever hear anything about Baby Weepy and sibling? Happy New Year to you!

Endless Love ~ Amazing Grace said...

I have been reading your blog a while now. We are about to take our PRIDE classes and have only a few other things to complete to start fostering...