Saturday, June 27, 2009

Are You Kidding Me??

Today at visitation Cry Baby's mom said:
She would like the clothes I bought for CB when he out grows them,to give to her nephew! Because she "knows" I get paid back for the clothes I buy!!! NOT LADY!
ARE YOU KIDDING ME? Where do these people get their information?? From LK?
No, lady. This is what happens. I get reimbursed for 50.00 worth of clothing (that takes 6-8 weeks for that to happen) But since he was placed with us when his foster home was closed we don't even get that, because the original foster placement used that. Now, what ever he needs comes out of my pocket and guess what? You'd be surprised how fast they grow, and how much clothes cost. Now in the fall, I will get a whole 'nuther 50.00 for clothing, but of course he'll need to wear those. And shoes must come out of that too. So just how many outfits, shoes, socks, ect do you think you can get for that? NOT much.
Just when you think you've heard it all...
**LK, I give you NO credit at all, other than your ignorance of the other side of the coin. Which by the way, never ceases to amaze me. You do know there are people out there who can not and will not take care of their kids. Meth addicts and crack addicts don't pay taxes, I find. So let's not say they contribute via their tax paying.
I dare you to raise an infant/Toddler on 250.00 a month. Please include in your calculations: FORMULA, bottles, clothes,(not dollar store or Goodwill) DIAPERS, wipes, daycare (because someone has to work to pay for this) older babies & toddlers need baby food, age proper snacks, sippy cups, more clothes, shoes, transportation to see the parents, your time and gas to do so. Taking time off work for multiple Dr visits, because they are always sick & never up to date on anything. Of course you'll need time and gas for that too. There is so much more, but I'll let you do the calculations for just these "few" things for now. Please do, get back to me on how your budget comes out. By my calculations over the years it comes out that I pay about 150.00 per month to be able to be a foster parent to children who have NO parents or relatives who can or will take them in.
By the way, the children leave my house with more than they ever came here with. If you don't count the health, love and stable home they have while here.

11 comments:

Momma Rae and the Deputy said...

aw :( so sorry!!
how ignorant!


i am so lucky to have just gotten an allowance for the two boys I have....

we also get that 50 emergency fund in gift card form... but our boys weren't really an emergency so we didnt get that this time....

Susan said...

I always let b-parents know that of course I will return any clothing (or anything else) they send and they can do whatever they like with it. I say this in response to any sort of question or comment about what the kids will bring home with them or what will I do with the stuff they are wearing/playing with/they saw last week.

Nichole said...

genius...doesn't she realize that you may need them for future placements? hello!

Min said...

Please tell us you did set her straight...

Ugh...

The Brothers said...

Augh!! The ignorance!! The audacity!!
I can't believe these people continue to breed. I'm sorry - they need to be fixed!!

Anonymous said...

We rarely if ever get an allowance,most our kids countys are broke.Atleast thats their excuse.I usually send the stuff with the kid anyways,its for their benefit not the birthparents in most cases,and keeping it just gives me sad memories of the kids who left.This BM,sounds like a real character.Jill-lovingmyamazinglife

LK said...

Oh give her the clothes. My God. You probably got them for a dollar at Goodwill anyway.

BTW... I didn't tell her that.

Anonymous said...

Come on now, we all know that foster parents are paid quite well for the kids they have. The ASFA gives the states and foster care givers a lot of money, that's why the states remove so many children needlessly. Her taxes go to pay for those clothes so why shouldn't she get them. LK is at least fighting on the right side.

D said...

Anonymous, thanks for the laugh, I just peed my pants. That's a good one. Paid well??? OK, whatever you say, you may want to take my challenge at the end of the post & get back to me. Drug addicts & people who "do other things" for a living DON'T PAY TAXES.

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PeWee said...

We had a birthparent who provided an outfit for HER baby and then called me to "remind" me to wash it and return it to her during the next visit. Why? Why do you need it, your baby lives with me. You can't provide an outfit for her to wear, it's not like it would fit me. SHE, your daughter, would be the only one to wear it.